We live in a culture where marriage is something that is disposable.
This week I had two encounters that are sparking this post to come alive but before I touch on those I want to share about my marriage. In just over a week Charity and I will celebrate our six year anniversary. Now I know that we don't have 50 years of marriage under our belts but I am good enough at math to know that you have to hit year six before you hit year fifty in marriage.
See the wedding is a one day event that we pour so much time and energy into but many couples fail to invest in their marriage. If we could just switch the time and energy we place into those events I think we could see dramatically better results in marriage.
Now I think I have the best family in the world but I still live in a culture that doesn't honor marriage or commitment. You may wonder where I am getting that statement from. This week I took my wife out for a date. At our favorite Sushi restaurant we both have chopsticks that are just ours (its pretty cool to ask for them). When I told the waiter that Charity and I both had the same last name he looked at me and said "Oh, you two are married?" I was taken back but I get that living out in Vegas (and my wife is hot so people don't think she would marry a guy like me).
Then I was talking on the phone with an airline company and booking some tickets. I was asking if I need to give them Leah's name as a lap baby and the lady on the phone told me I did. She asked what we last name was; she was curious if Sophie and Leah had the same last name. I was in shock. I was just taken back again. Now I know this happens all the time but what if it didn't?
What if there was something inside humans that didn't leave each other? I know that there are some marriages where a spouse is abusive and some leave for safety sake but what about the other situations? Maybe I just wish that people would stick it out a bit more. See we have hit hard times but the hard times have made the good times that much better and especially with each other. I hope that our marriage lasts not only another six years but another sixty years. I want to spend the rest of my life with Charity and I'm going to leave the office right now, grab some flowers and just let her know that I still love her!