How do we process death:
When I found out my friend Rob passed away I shed a few tears that day. When my wife told me I had to hold back the tears. When I spoke with Conrad that day I let some of them fly. The thing that shocked me is when I broke down at his memorial service. I knew that I had emotions in my life in regards to his passing that I had not dealt with but I was shocked at the pain inside. As I think about the truth of Scripture I can only think about how Paul tells us to mourn with those who are mourning
"Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn" Romans 12:15
I am so thankful for my wife this month. I am so thankful that I have someone in my life who shares the same belief system as I do. Charity has allowed me to mourn over these deaths but has been there with me to talk them through. She has, graciously, listened to my ramblings and my questions as we have conversed over this topic this month. Charity has been there to listen to me say: "I just don't get it" or "I don't understand" more times that I can count. As you deal with death in your life I would invite you to find a faithful person that you can have honest conversations with.
During these times that we are dealing with death I think the best remedy is to have friends around. I am not talking about acquaintance; I am talking about friends. This is a time in life that we need to surround ourselves with people who know us, who we can be honest with and who can be ok with us crying.
If you had to add something to this list what it would be?